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Dear Taya...
A kitten has wondered into my yard, and I'm not sure what to do.
28 Apr 2010, 12:41
The Following was the result of many text messages and phone calls.....
Dear Taya,
A kitten has wondered into my yard, and I'm not sure what to do. I think I need to keep it safe.
Julie, Q.
Taya Replied: Catching him won't be easy. The worst thing you could do is pounce on him, because that will extend the process, but I do see you catching him and your plan to take him to the vet for re-homing feels right.. Good Luck.
Julie Replied over the course of 2 days:
Dear Taya, The kitten came back yesterday on dark. Fed him again but couldn't catch him. Let Bert (My Cat) out early this morning, and woke to find kitten playing with one of his toys in the kitchen. I flew out and shut the door.
He had another feed shut up in the bathroom but the little tyke can run fast and got out! He ran under the back fence again. lets hope my rescue plan comes off again tonight/tomorrow am. I've decided to take straight to the vet tmrw am.
This is proving to be a challenge! I think i'm the only one that knows about him now, am doing the only feeding, he seems to sleep it off over the fence in their shrubby garden
had dinner tonight here, was in the kitchen again at 5am this morning, but went when he saw me stirring
I missed a couple of opportunities to grab him lastnight, and did a stupid thing this morning and pounced - threw a little rug trying to weigh him down, didnt work! he still is attracted to bert and will come within a metre of me but then takes off when i move
i dont want another pet, also i dont want a kitty living part time with me and having to watch with driving in the yard etc! is it appropriate to do a quick fix? would that help, perhaps reduce being scared of me?
HA argh as gorgeous as he is, i will pay for a balance for him/her, so i can deliver him to safety!
Taya replied: You missed your chance to move him on quickly. He is now around for up to 3 days. He's going to go to a lovely little old lady who needs the company. To do this he'll have to learn about how to behave as a house cat, so is learning from you and Bert appropriate behaviour. I've put a bubble around him and I don't believe any harm will come to him. Your job is to virtually ignore him. He'll come to/thru your door when he's learnt enough from you and you'll simply close it behind him. I've given him 3 days Max, but I've encouraged him to do it sooner, showing him the lap of the lady he'll live with - Purr Purr he likes that very much! I've done stuff on safety, hydration and 3 rounds of electrolytes etc as he's quite dehydrated on an energy level, as well as sorting through his major block with timing, as he's stuffing it up.
The next day:
Julie Replied: Thankyou all great, just handed him over You and your gifts are wonderful! I put out more toys for him anyway for the morning's play session. It was easy in the end and I found a vet that would take him.
thanks for all your help, another soul saved.
Julie.
I am having some stresses at my work with my colleagues.
28 Mar 2010, 13:43
Dear Taya,
I am having some stresses at my work with my colleagues. There are 3 of them, all male and I really want to make some changes, but they don’t take me seriously. I am in a senior management position, but they treat me as their junior, even though technically, I have equal authority within my area of decision making and responsibility. One of them is vindictive another patronising and the other a kiss arse (excuse my french, but there’s simply no other way to phrase it). After a few emails to and fro, Taya establishes the request from oscar_helen is actually: Can you help me to assert myself enough in this one proposal so I can re-establish myself as an equal business partner within the firm?
- oscar_helen
Taya replied: Sure! You’re not going to like me saying this, but you are taking some of the things they say and do waaaaay too personally. Do you think you are the only person they treat this way? - Don’t kid yourself, they’re like this with everyone, however you find this particularly insulting and it triggers many highly emotional, but sometimes irrational thinking patterns. You’re the one who makes yourself lose sleep over it at night, and wishing they were different with you (and no one else) is wishful thinking.
What we CAN do is work with you until you can remain peaceful and composed - no matter how badly they behave. I’ve released on: I feel “ little”, a stress which has come up at ages 42, 40, 39, 37, 28, 22, 16, 7 and 3years old. I’ve also released: humility, obsessed (you really go over and over the events and behaviors that tick you off) and confident (you’re not confident around them, and this is a BIG stress for you). Most of this tied into experiences and baggage that you are carrying around the issues of self worth, body image and father defenses. (I hope this makes sense for you).
After the balance I felt a freeing of stress and tension in my neck back and shoulders, and like a wave of energy was allowed to come into my heart chakra area - opening yourself to more loving experiences. I would like also to talk with you about some re-programming we can do to help you with your mentality and some language that can cut through the BS for you when you’re with them to allow yourself the upper hand or a more even playing field if you’re open to it. I feel this will give you the result you’re looking for in your upcoming proposal.
oscar_helen replied: The proposal went off without a hitch. I was quite prepared to go for the jugular, but needless to say, it was so calm and peaceful, defending was not necessary. I’ve implemented the body language techniques to get what I want in the work environment, and the placement of my office furniture and in the board rooms has really changed things. Other staff members seem to see me in a different light now. My colleagues are still obnoxious, but they focus their attention elsewhere, as they just don’t get a rise out of me. I still get a bit annoyed sometimes, but then I give myself a reality check and pull myself into line pretty quickly. This was much easier after our second session, and I’m embarrassed I was still wingeing after the first one. You really showed me some home truths. I am grateful for your time. I was not quite prepared for the ease with which things changed, all because of my attitude towards it. You gave me 3 sessions at no charge so I will tell my friends, family and colleagues how I managed to find peace.
A kitten has wondered into my yard, and I'm not sure what to do.
28 Apr 2010, 12:41
The Following was the result of many text messages and phone calls.....
Dear Taya,
A kitten has wondered into my yard, and I'm not sure what to do. I think I need to keep it safe.
Julie, Q.
Taya Replied: Catching him won't be easy. The worst thing you could do is pounce on him, because that will extend the process, but I do see you catching him and your plan to take him to the vet for re-homing feels right.. Good Luck.
Julie Replied over the course of 2 days:
Dear Taya, The kitten came back yesterday on dark. Fed him again but couldn't catch him. Let Bert (My Cat) out early this morning, and woke to find kitten playing with one of his toys in the kitchen. I flew out and shut the door.
He had another feed shut up in the bathroom but the little tyke can run fast and got out! He ran under the back fence again. lets hope my rescue plan comes off again tonight/tomorrow am. I've decided to take straight to the vet tmrw am.
This is proving to be a challenge! I think i'm the only one that knows about him now, am doing the only feeding, he seems to sleep it off over the fence in their shrubby garden
had dinner tonight here, was in the kitchen again at 5am this morning, but went when he saw me stirring
I missed a couple of opportunities to grab him lastnight, and did a stupid thing this morning and pounced - threw a little rug trying to weigh him down, didnt work! he still is attracted to bert and will come within a metre of me but then takes off when i move
i dont want another pet, also i dont want a kitty living part time with me and having to watch with driving in the yard etc! is it appropriate to do a quick fix? would that help, perhaps reduce being scared of me?
HA argh as gorgeous as he is, i will pay for a balance for him/her, so i can deliver him to safety!
Taya replied: You missed your chance to move him on quickly. He is now around for up to 3 days. He's going to go to a lovely little old lady who needs the company. To do this he'll have to learn about how to behave as a house cat, so is learning from you and Bert appropriate behaviour. I've put a bubble around him and I don't believe any harm will come to him. Your job is to virtually ignore him. He'll come to/thru your door when he's learnt enough from you and you'll simply close it behind him. I've given him 3 days Max, but I've encouraged him to do it sooner, showing him the lap of the lady he'll live with - Purr Purr he likes that very much! I've done stuff on safety, hydration and 3 rounds of electrolytes etc as he's quite dehydrated on an energy level, as well as sorting through his major block with timing, as he's stuffing it up.
The next day:
Julie Replied: Thankyou all great, just handed him over You and your gifts are wonderful! I put out more toys for him anyway for the morning's play session. It was easy in the end and I found a vet that would take him.
thanks for all your help, another soul saved.
Julie.
28 Mar 2010, 13:43
Dear Taya,
I am having some stresses at my work with my colleagues. There are 3 of them, all male and I really want to make some changes, but they don’t take me seriously. I am in a senior management position, but they treat me as their junior, even though technically, I have equal authority within my area of decision making and responsibility. One of them is vindictive another patronising and the other a kiss arse (excuse my french, but there’s simply no other way to phrase it). After a few emails to and fro, Taya establishes the request from oscar_helen is actually: Can you help me to assert myself enough in this one proposal so I can re-establish myself as an equal business partner within the firm?
- oscar_helen
Taya replied: Sure! You’re not going to like me saying this, but you are taking some of the things they say and do waaaaay too personally. Do you think you are the only person they treat this way? - Don’t kid yourself, they’re like this with everyone, however you find this particularly insulting and it triggers many highly emotional, but sometimes irrational thinking patterns. You’re the one who makes yourself lose sleep over it at night, and wishing they were different with you (and no one else) is wishful thinking.
What we CAN do is work with you until you can remain peaceful and composed - no matter how badly they behave. I’ve released on: I feel “ little”, a stress which has come up at ages 42, 40, 39, 37, 28, 22, 16, 7 and 3years old. I’ve also released: humility, obsessed (you really go over and over the events and behaviors that tick you off) and confident (you’re not confident around them, and this is a BIG stress for you). Most of this tied into experiences and baggage that you are carrying around the issues of self worth, body image and father defenses. (I hope this makes sense for you).
After the balance I felt a freeing of stress and tension in my neck back and shoulders, and like a wave of energy was allowed to come into my heart chakra area - opening yourself to more loving experiences. I would like also to talk with you about some re-programming we can do to help you with your mentality and some language that can cut through the BS for you when you’re with them to allow yourself the upper hand or a more even playing field if you’re open to it. I feel this will give you the result you’re looking for in your upcoming proposal.
oscar_helen replied: The proposal went off without a hitch. I was quite prepared to go for the jugular, but needless to say, it was so calm and peaceful, defending was not necessary. I’ve implemented the body language techniques to get what I want in the work environment, and the placement of my office furniture and in the board rooms has really changed things. Other staff members seem to see me in a different light now. My colleagues are still obnoxious, but they focus their attention elsewhere, as they just don’t get a rise out of me. I still get a bit annoyed sometimes, but then I give myself a reality check and pull myself into line pretty quickly. This was much easier after our second session, and I’m embarrassed I was still wingeing after the first one. You really showed me some home truths. I am grateful for your time. I was not quite prepared for the ease with which things changed, all because of my attitude towards it. You gave me 3 sessions at no charge so I will tell my friends, family and colleagues how I managed to find peace.
